Speak to Children Like They Understand
“Children understand far more than we give them credit for.” One thing I have learned from my experience as an administrator at Ocean City School is this: always communicate with children as if you believe they understand. Now, this does not mean using abusive language or speaking to them in ways that are not age-appropriate. It simply means communicating with them respectfully, intentionally, and constructively. At the end of the day, children are humans too — this is simply a stage of their lives. This realization has honestly been one of the most interesting parts of my journey working closely with children. At Ocean City School, all of us contribute practically in different ways, so I have had the opportunity to be deeply involved with the children daily. As a man and someone who hopes to have a family one day, I genuinely see this environment as a beautiful training ground for life. One thing I find fascinating is that many people only begin to fully communicate with children once they start talking. But if you pay close attention, you will realize that even before children can speak, they are still incredibly responsive. They identify objects.They point to what they want.They express discomfort.They react emotionally.They follow patterns.They even help with simple tasks surprisingly early. And honestly, what should we expect? They are humans. I sometimes think many people know this subconsciously, but they do not fully sit in the reality of it. Because of that, children are often spoken to in ways that underestimate how aware, observant, and emotionally responsive they already are. The moment you truly accept that children are developing individuals, you begin to notice how intelligent and observant they naturally are. You start seeing potential in them much earlier, and suddenly the little things they do become far more impressive. Modern child development research actually supports this idea strongly. The Harvard Center on the Developing Child explains that responsive back-and-forth interaction with children helps shape brain development, emotional growth, and language skills — even before children can properly speak. Maria Montessori also once said: “The infant in arms has far greater mental energies than are usually imagined.” And honestly, I believe that completely. Sometimes I am amazed by how naturally intelligent children already come into this world. Imagine how difficult it can be for an adult to intentionally learn a new language, yet children unintentionally pick up two or three languages simply by being present around people. Very annoying sometimes — in a good way, hahaha — but also incredibly impressive. Another funny example happened during one vacation period. A parent called me dramatically and said: “Mr Edward, what are you people teaching the kids at the school?” I froze immediately. My mind started racing because I genuinely thought something terrible had happened. Then she suddenly burst out laughing and explained that the kind of words their three-year-old had started using at home were unbelievable. The word that shocked them most was: “Actually.” At that moment, I honestly suspected I might be responsible because I use that word a lot around the children. Hahaha. The relief and joy I felt afterward was incredible because what I feared would be a complaint ended up becoming one of the sweetest compliments. But that moment also reminded me of something important:children are always listening. Adults sometimes underestimate how much children absorb simply by being around us. They are constantly observing tone, emotions, reactions, habits, and vocabulary. That is why communication around children matters so much. Be mindful.Be respectful.Be constructive. I honestly believe people grow into how they are treated. At Ocean City School, we believe respectful communication is part of helping children grow confidently into themselves. The goal is not simply to “manage” children, but to understand that they are already becoming people with personalities, emotions, intelligence, and potential. Now, at every stage, remember:they are humans, they are growing, and they are constantly becoming. Never underestimate your child because of their age. Grow with them. Speak to them with intention. Respect their emotions. Encourage their curiosity. You may be surprised by just how much they understand — and even more amazed by who they eventually become. Children may be small, but they are never empty. They are always listening, always learning, and always becoming.


